Some mothers around me see dressing up their children as a great joy of parenting, happily matching clothes for their kids every day, ensuring the colors are harmonious and the styles are elegant.

There are also many mothers who, not only do not dress themselves up, but also neglect to dress their children, even believing that since the child is still young, being well-fed, warm, and well-rested is the most important thing. They wonder who they are dressing up for, and worry that encouraging their child to love beauty from a young age will make them increasingly vain.

But in fact, dressing up children and encouraging them to pursue beauty has nothing to do with vanity!

External beauty and internal beauty are not contradictory.

Valuing appearance does not mean neglecting the inner self.

There was a very popular saying online: "What I fear most is not that others are better than you, but that those who are better than you are also better looking."

In this era where looks equate to strength, the most outstanding individuals often excel both internally and externally, possessing both charm and knowledge. Those who leave a deep impression on others often radiate confidence from within, and their aura can easily outshine many.

Speaking of this, some mothers might want to argue: "Letting children be vain from a young age is not proper! They should focus on more important things!"

I want to say, does letting children be dirty and disheveled from a young age make them smarter, better, or more confident?

Clearly not!

Once children enter society, whether they can seize more opportunities requires not only knowledge but also a proper appearance. When the same competitive opportunity is presented, those who are well-groomed and elegant will undoubtedly attract more favor.

And those children who have been brainwashed with the idea that "inner beauty is true beauty" will find out the hard way that if they are not good-looking, others have no interest in understanding their "inner beauty"!

Don't let your child lose face because of a shabby appearance.

Dressing children well has another benefit: it allows them to live more decently.

Once, at the age of 25, Yang Lan realized this truth during her lowest point.

"You uncultured Chinese girl! Get out of my house!"

On a winter night in New York, 25-year-old Yang Lan was scolded and kicked out of her landlord's house.

The reason was that after washing her hair, she sat on the bed eating a bread roll while flipping through a newspaper, which violated her landlord's principles.

Her landlord, Mrs. Shalina, was a beauty-loving but very strict middle-aged woman.

If you were not dressed neatly, you were not allowed to enter her living room. When guests visited, you had to wear lipstick and could not eat while sitting on the bed... these were her so-called principles.

However, before this, Yang Lan hardly ever dressed herself up, let alone wear lipstick.

Moreover, for twenty-five years, her mother had always told her that a person's achievements and abilities are the most important.

But everyone here judges people by their appearance.

During a daytime interview, she was rejected because her personal image did not match her resume, which was a complete insult to her twenty-five years of worldview.

Now, Yang Lan exudes an aura of refinement and elegance in her every move, and her confident smile often makes people feel like they are in a spring breeze.

As she said: No one is obligated to discover your rich soul through your shabby appearance that you yourself don't care about.

I used to not care much about my child's clothing, thinking that I should instill in them the idea that appearance is not important, the key is the inner self.

One day, when my daughter came home from school, she insisted that I buy her a dress from the Frozen series. Thinking I would fulfill her wish, I took her to the mall and bought her a particularly beautiful princess dress with lace trim. She was so excited that she kissed me several times on the face and spent the whole day in front of the mirror trying it on.

The next day, she wore it to kindergarten, and when she came back from school, she was overjoyed and confidently said, "Mom, today my classmates all praised my dress and asked where I bought it!"

I realized that although my child is small, she is very sensitive to others' opinions.

Children instinctively hope that those around them will welcome, pay attention to, and like them.

A well-dressed and elegant child receives a completely different response from their surroundings compared to a messy and casual child.

When a child appears in a beautiful and elegant manner in a crowd, they can gain more respect and attention from people. This way, the child will love communication more, be better at expressing themselves, and have more joyful emotional experiences.

On the contrary, if a child's appearance is shabby, their clothing casual, and they are unkempt, they will experience more indifference from their surroundings, which can lead to increased shyness and low self-esteem. Over time, they may even fear being noticed and prefer to quietly hide in a corner without speaking.

Therefore, dressing children up a bit more exquisitely and attractively is not to please anyone, but to make them more confident, more willing to express themselves, and gain more respect from others, giving them more opportunities to embrace the world. At the same time, dressing children well can also deepen their understanding of beauty and foster a more positive attitude towards life.

Aesthetic education should start early; children are likely to win.

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Some mothers might say: "I won't dress up my child now; can I wait until they grow up to do so?"

No! Because every child has their own sensitive period for aesthetics.

Sun Ruixue said in "Capturing Children's Sensitive Periods": In fact, an adult's temperament is shaped by their aesthetic experiences during childhood, and childhood aesthetics lay the foundation for a person's aesthetic tendencies and quality of life throughout their life.

In other words, by the time children grow up, their aesthetic level and standards have already formed, making it very difficult to make changes.

For example, some people can wear a T-shirt that costs only a few dozen yuan and still give off a high-end vibe. However, there are others who, even when wearing designer clothes and accessories, can still come across as cheap.

In fact, this is the influence of aesthetic ability on a person.

If you want your child to be a well-rounded person in the future, you need to pay attention to cultivating their aesthetic ability from a young age.

As parents, we hope to guide our children to have interesting souls while also encouraging them to showcase their attractive appearances.

Let’s encourage each other with all the mothers and children.